Recently, we were honored to have Kacie Margis come onto The Blissy Experience Podcast in Episode 4 to talk about her experience as a trauma survivor and her subsequent journey as a motivational speaker. Watch the full episode here, if you haven’t caught it already.
Now, Kacie is sharing even more insights with us in this exclusive bonus content post, sharing profound insights not covered in her original podcast interview. Her willingness to open up further and offer additional perspectives on overcoming trauma and embracing resilience is truly inspiring.
This blog post is a unique opportunity to connect with Kacie’s journey on a new level, as she reveals strategies and personal stories that have shaped her path to healing. Read on to learn these invaluable insights and be inspired by Kacie’s strength and openness.
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Q: How has your approach to self-care evolved over the years, and are there any new strategies you've adopted recently?
Kacie: I used to think self-care was bubble baths and drinking tea. Now, I realize that it goes far beyond the surface of little joys. I’m a recovering people-pleaser, so self-care to me is about establishing healthy boundaries with people. It’s knowing when to say no and putting yourself first when the situation calls for it. Self-care is also not being afraid to ask for what you need and forgiving yourself for the times you weren’t your best self.
Q: Can you share how your favorite hobby benefits your well-being, and what encouragement would you offer to someone considering a new hobby?
Kacie: Most recently, I got into gardening. If you met me a year ago, I was one of those people who couldn’t keep a plant alive. But all of that changed this year when I was looking for something to make me feel like I have a purpose. Soon, my garden became like a child to me. I love the ritual of watering my plants, and watching everything bloom over time.
I feel my stress levels drop every time I look outside and see my garden. Just last night, I picked some bell peppers, tomato, and basil to make a spaghetti sauce with. I think having a hobby in which you are using your hands is super beneficial for mental wellbeing.
For anyone considering a new hobby—I say just go for it! Don’t worry about being good or bad at it. Remember that hobbies are for you to enjoy and it doesn’t matter how anyone else views the end result.
Q: Could you guide our readers through a grounding exercise that you use when you feel overwhelmed?
Kacie: Yes! I learned the 5-4-3-2-1 technique when I first sought out therapy for my PTSD and depression. This is an excellent grounding exercise to bring you into the present moment. Here's how it works:
1. Find a Comfortable Position. Sit or stand in a comfortable position. You can close your eyes if it helps you concentrate, but it's not necessary.
2. Take a Deep Breath. Begin by taking a slow, deep breath in through your nose, counting to four as you inhale.
3. Acknowledge Five Things You See. Open your eyes if they were closed and take a moment to notice five things you can see in your immediate environment. It could be anything from a piece of furniture to a plant.
4. Acknowledge Four Things You Feel. Pay attention to four things you can feel physically. This might be the texture of your clothing, the sensation of your feet on the ground, or the temperature of the air.
5. Acknowledge Three Things You Hear. Listen for three distinct sounds. It could be the hum of a distant conversation, the rustling of leaves, or the sound of your own breathing.
6. Acknowledge Two Things You Smell. If possible, identify two scents in your surroundings. It might be the scent of a room, food, or nature.
7. Acknowledge One Thing You Taste. If you have something to taste nearby, like a sip of water, a piece of fruit, or even the taste of toothpaste, take a moment to focus on that taste.
8. Take Another Deep Breath. After going through the 5-4-3-2-1 process, take another slow, deep breath out through your mouth, counting to four as you exhale.
Q: What's your message to those facing hopelessness after trauma, to reignite their hope and sense of purpose?
Kacie: To those facing the darkness of trauma, remember that healing is a journey, and it's okay to feel lost along the way. You have the resilience to overcome, and your sense of purpose can be reignited. Remember that your voice and your story are your power. You should not feel shame because of what you have endured.
Oftentimes after a traumatic event, we lose the sense of who we are. Try to remember all of the things that used to bring you joy—can you incorporate some of those things into your new normal? It’s okay to be mad. Harness your anger and use it as fuel to push you to pursue all of the dreams you have. Your life has immense value, and there is hope to be found even in the darkest moments. Seek small joys, take one step at a time, and focus on self-compassion.
